Welcome to a Secret Subject Swap. This week 9 brave bloggers picked a secret subject for someone else and were assigned a secret subject to interpret in their own style. Today we are all simultaneously divulging our topics and submitting our posts.
Your “Secret Subject” is:
How do you handle an abusive situation from a stranger? Do you react or walk away?
It was submitted by: https://batteredhope.blogspot.com
I am a recovering people pleaser. For many years I have consistently said yes to things that I didn’t want to do, or didn’t have the time to do or even didn’t know how to do. I don’t know why this is. I’ve always had a hard time dealing with people being mad at me.
I’ve never been a confrontational person so when it was easier I just said yes. I have gotten myself in hot water plenty of times because I had said yes. I’ve inconvenienced my own family, created financial struggles, or put a strain on my own mental health all because I couldn’t say no.
That all stopped at the beginning of the year when I decided this would be the year of boundaries in my personal and professional life. For once in my life, I’m putting my own wants and needs before making decisions to give more of myself than I want to give. I really stop and think about what the outcome will be before saying yes to anything.
I need to create strong boundaries for my own mental health and the health of my business. No, I can’t do that, no I don’t want to go there, and even no I can’t afford that are my new friends. I no longer accept being taken for granted, being talked down to, or being put in positions that I don’t want to be put in.
Whether it’s a friend, family member, client or even a complete stranger I will not accept abuse whether it’s physical or mental. I will disengage faster than you can say, “where did she go?”. I have no time for bullshit and I have people in my life who love me unconditionally and I won’t subject them to abuse either.
If you’re a client I will do what I can as soon as I can, but if I feel as if I’m being taken advantage of I put a stop to it immediately. Some would say it’s about time. I work hard for myself, for my family and for my clients and I stand by that work, but I will not work for someone who has no concept of boundaries.
What about you? Are you a people pleaser recovering or present? Do you stand your ground when pushed? Let’s start a conversation about it!
Here are links to all the sites now featuring Secret Subject Swap posts. Sit back, grab a cup, and check them all out. See you there:
Baking In A Tornado https://www.BakingInATornado.com
Cognitive Script https://cognitivescript.blogspot.com
The Bergham Chronicles https://berghamchronicles.blogspot.com/
Never Ever Give Up Hope https://batteredhope.blogspot.com
Southern Belle Charm https://www.southernbellecharm.com
Bookworm in the Kitchen https://www.bookwormkitchen.com/
Part-time Working Hockey Mom https://thethreegerbers.blogspot.ch/